Forgiveness

Forgiveness is said to be the point when one decides to let go of any feelings of resentment and abandoning any plans to enact vengeance on someone who has wronged you. To me, forgiveness also means being able to get past any wrong that someone has done without necessarily overlooking its wrongful nature or its consequences. Over the years, I have learnt a great deal about forgiveness and although I am quick to forgive, I have come to discover that I still keep a grudge and find it difficult to interact with people that wrong me even after I have forgiven them.

            I remember an incident that occurred when in school where the person I was dating cheated on me with someone I considered one of my closest friends. When I found out, I was mad at my friend and even considered getting intimate with their partner at the time. However, I realized that would only lower my self-esteem and it went against all my principles. Although I did end up forgiving the two for their betrayal and stop with my plan for vengeance, I have realized that forgiving them didn’t mean that we could remain in speaking terms.

            I have learnt that forgiveness is important especially because people tend to wrong each other from time to time. While it is important to forgive and forget, my weakness lies in the forgetting part and this makes it difficult for me to have a normal relationship with people that wrong me even after I have forgiven them. However, since forgiveness is the key to healthier relationships and a better state of mind, I am determined to be better at forgiveness so as to avoid the mistakes that people make from negatively affecting my life.