The only proper context for sex given its nature is part of a committed personal relation?

Sex in most cases is normally associated with relationship and it’s a natural need in the life of an individual that needs to be met. There are many cases where sex in the context of a committed personal relation fails to work in the intended manner. The three main reasons that make sex to be seen as proper outside such relationship includes the cases of chronic illness of a partner, that results to partners’ loss of intimacy and issues related to separation or divorce. Sex is very important to ones quality of life especially among the adults.

When one is in relationship and their partner is hit by a serious illness, their lives become dislocated due to the profound changes associated with it. This illness becomes the unwelcome party that destroys the image that partners have for each other and affects the relationship routines such as sexual intimacy.  Exhaustion and pain take precedence of the desires of the partners and the relationship shifts from that of equals to one of patient and a caregiver. Since sexual is a need that is reality in the relationships where it’s fully met. Chronic illness has multi-factorial effects on sexuality and impacts on the stages of sexual response.  The sexual dysfunction and the related dissatisfaction in the ill partner cause a big barrier that means that the healthy partner does not get his conjugal rights. Thus, it’s true for the assertion that the other partner may seek sexual satisfaction outside marriage, which is outside the context of a personal relationship. This is because the ill partners’ sexual capacity and desire will be altered by this illness in ways that the problem becomes irreversible (Hertlein, Weeks &Gambescia 288).  The case of such barriers presents valid reasons for persons to seek sexual satisfaction outside a committed relationship.

Another reason that makes sex appropriate outside the context of a relationship is divorce and separation. This is usually a difficult path which involves a lot of challenges since the two people had become unhappy .depressed and generally unhealthy emotionally. This makes the individual unable to enter into any personal relationship due the unhealed emotional injuries. Thus an individual may get involved in casual sex so as to satisfy their sexual needs especially from a single partner with whom they are not romantically involved or attached (Freitas, 46). Such individuals may not be ready to get involved in another relationship due to the impacts it may have on their children and the fear getting into other unworkable relationship. Thus, such individuals would be best suited for sex outside the confines of a personal and attached relationship. Furthermore, marriage is not always the outright way of offering protection against dangerous and harmful sex potential. Rather instead of closing one’s eyes and assuming that sex will be good only in marriage or committed relationships, the focus should be on the responsible sex. Thus, sex outside committed relationship will be appropriate if the protection for physical and mental health for the involved parties is considered. This will mean that divorced or separated partners will have sex whose main focus is mutual pleasure (Filipovic, 1).

In conclusion, sex is very essential for the general physical and emotional wellbeing of an individual. It would right to have sex that is fully consensual and thus the issue would be how ones themselves and others. As long as it’s consensual, sex can be outside the confines of a committed relation.

References

Hertlein Katherine, Weeks Gerald,  Gambescia Nanacy .Systemic Sex Therapy: Journal,.Routledge. Vol 20(2-3). (2015).288