Communications
Interpersonal relationship refers to a deep and close association amongst people sharing common interests. This may range from a shorter duration to a very longer period. For any relationship to exist there must be a sense of trust and commitment amongst the involved partners so as to avoid misunderstanding and conflicts. In a relationship, there is a possibility of two people starting a relationship as strangers. They come to know each other slowly and later become strongly attached to each other gradually. In the long run, the two are able to build up a stronger commitment that cannot be separable (Devito, 2016). On the other hand, there is a possibility of two starting a relationship very well but later face problems. Such problems come in as a result of differing opinions where the two cannot reach a mutual agreement.
Interpersonal relationship involves the following stages; the first stage for any interpersonal relationship is, contact. This is the stage where people become aware of the other’s existence. This may happen distantly and within a shortest period, for instance, seeing a person at the work place or even in a train. In this stage, one party may identify the other while the other party is unaware, or both parties may identify each other at the same time (Devito, 2016). At this stage, parties may have a brief and impersonal interaction with each other for example, greeting each other and brief talks on bland matters such as work. This stage also involves assessment of individuals whereby one party learns of how to interact with the other.
The second stage of interpersonal relationship is involvement. In this stage, people can get to engage with one another forming an extra bond of attachment than before. Interaction increases more and more forming a sense of mutuality such that when the two parties meet, pleasant feelings arise. At this stage individuals test each other whether they can go forward to enter into intimacy (Devito, 2016). Many times, relationships end at this stage if one party lacks commitment. At this stage, individuals may ask for a proof that will show readiness to move to the next stage.
Intimacy is the third of interpersonal relationship. This is the stage where the relationship is as its deepest and the parties are so committed. This stage involves personal commitment where the individual puts time and effort to strengthen the relationship. The problem comes when one party is more committed than the other. At this stage, the two affirm their feelings for one another and agree on their expectations from one another. For example, individuals may agree on whether they will stay as friends or get married (Devito, 2016). After making commitments to one another, it may be so difficult for the two to look back because of the social bond created; hence, it may lead to a formal signing of a marriage declaration. As a result, this will call for a long-term commitment. However, there are still uncertainties of a relationship at this stage. There is a possibility for it to continue smoothly, or even separation which can lead to deterioration.
The other stage is called repair. This is where individuals work out to mend their relationship if there are damages. This may involve the help of friends and counselors who can guide on draw out the problem from that relationship. The parties reflect on times when the relationship used to be good and identify the error (Devito, 2016). When repair is done well, it can result in to a stronger relationship thereafter. Whereas, if it is done rightly, damages may continue cropping in every now and then
The final stage is known as dissolution. This is for relationships that have failed to be repaired. This entails separation of individuals both physically and psychologically and it has to be done with a joint agreement such that one party is not left clinging. This stage may also involve acquaintances that can witness the incident (Devito, 2016).
One of the relationship movies that has conflict is “crazy love” 2007. The movie shows a story of Pugach and his wife Linda. The two had a very strong relationship but after Linda learnt that Pugach had another plus a child, she left him. This left Pugach in pain and he threatened to harm Linda. These threats led to his fifteen years’ imprisonment. While in prison, Pugach always wrote to Linda, and were able to date again after his release (Klorez &Stevens, 2007). In this movie, we find that the two came into disagreement because of mishandling one stage of relationship. In their involvement stage, they needed to know each other very well and openly such that either party is able to bear with one another. However, after deterioration the parties were able to repair back the relationship and made it even stronger. However, on the other hand, there are other movies where the involved parties are so much passionate about each other and they tend to avoid every possibility of conflicts in their relationship, for instance, “before sunset”2004.
References
Devito, Joseph A. (2016). Essentials of Human Communication Access Card. Pearson College Div. 9th edition.
Klorez Dan, Stevens Fishers. (2007).Crazy love, http://putlockers.fm/watch/lx2zLyxe-crazy-love-2007.html
Richard Linklater. (2004). Before sunset. http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0381681/
