How Language Changes Based on the Situation

 

Introduction  

            In this language and situation paper based on communication, my selected situation for dialogue will be a dialogue between Employee talking to the boss, a discussion of two siblings talking, and finally conversation between two colleagues. To enhance the dialogue, I will base dialogue based on the favor that I have chosen is to borrow $500.00 to add for my rent money.

The Employee taking to boss dialogue

Employee: Hello, boss, how are you doing?

Boss: Hello too. I am doing great, what about and who are you?

Employee: I am doing great, as well. My name is James, and I am an employee of this company.

Boss: what can I do for you, Mr. James?

Employee: To start with, I have been in this company for two years now, and I have always         worked efficiently and effectively to ensure that I give the best results as expected. For      two years, I have not asked for an off day or even asked for compensation.

Boss: That is great, and I expect more effort into the work at all times.

Employee: One more thing, sir, I have a problematic issue at hand, of which I am requesting for your assistance. I have needed some amount of money, $500.00, to be precise. I am late            on paying my house rent since I utilized my money buying medications for my mother. Now I am short of $500.00 to complete the payment.

Boss: Okay, I am sorry for your mother, and I wish her quick recovery. But how will you             compensate for that money?

Employee: It shall be cut from my monthly salary, sir.

Boss: Okay, come and see me in my office at lunch hour.

Employee: thank you, sir.  

Employee: thank you.

How did the dialogue change?

            It was hard for me to ask my boss for this favor since, to me, I saw it like he shall see me as a failure. In my entire life, asking for money has always proved to me how failure I am in their eyes and this issue always makes me feel so embarrassed. At this moment, at first, I didn't know how to start since I had a lot of a hard time asking for money from my boss. I felt embarrassed at first, although I managed to gather some courage and found my stance to begging the conversation. I decided to begin by explaining my strengths and qualities of work and about how I felt about employment in his company. For instance, I started by stating that, in my two years, I have been very hardworking, and I have never asked for compensation. Still, I have always am in the front line to ensure all my duties are effectively and efficiently completed at the expected time. At the moment, I remembered to mention the fact that I have never borrowed any off day. From there, I managed to gather some courage to say my actual reason for the dialogue. I explained the issue at hand, how I used my money to buy medication for my mother. To enforce this, I understood it would be better to tell that it was detrimental to give my mother that money for she would not do without the medicine. After all the explanation, I said that, even though I hate to ask for such favor, I had no alternative at the moment. Then I proceeded to borrow $ 500.00 to add to what I had to add and pay my house rent. Talking to my boss was much hander about how I can speak with my friend. Asking for this kind of favor from the boss made me feel as if I am a failure and so much embarrassed.

Why did the dialogue change?

            The fact that I had to explain my challenges to the boss, I felt a sense of failure and a lot of embarrassment factors that changed the dialogue. I have always been disturbed from inside that I should not go begging for money to a boss. After all, I realized it was not advisable to feel embarrassed since I was in need that I could not keep quiet. In one way or another, also our employers have ever encountered the same challenge as I was going through. The problem was that I felt like I had a great deal of trouble that I tried to pass over.

Two siblings talking dialogue

Sibling 1: Hey, bro, how do?

Sibling 2: Hey too bro, am doing great what about you?

Sibling 1: I am fine, bro but I need your help, as you know I used my money to buy mothers'       medication, I am going short of $500.00 to add to what I already have so that I can pay             rent, please.

Sibling 2: Okay, when will you refund the money, bro?

Sibling 1: I will pay on the end month on payday. 

Sibling 2: Nice, I will send for you via your bank account by evening; don't worry bro, we are     together in thick and thin.

Sibling 1: okay, bro, and thank you.

How did the dialogue change?

            Having a dialogue with my sibling was far much more comfortable in comparison to talking with a colleague or a boss. A discussion to ask for $500.00 for rent from my sibling was so easy and came out more fluently. We are at a deeper level of understanding each other with my sibling than to my boss. We have passed all hard and simple life challenges and situations together, so asking for help would create no fear or feeling like a failure. Borrowing money has been a habit between my sibling and me, so at this time; it would not mean a lot of worries.

Why did the dialogue change?

            At this dialogue, the change comes drastically since there was no feeling like I am a failure to ask for some help from my sibling. We have done this more often, especially since we become adults. At this dialogue, I had the assurance that I would be understood without much explanation, mainly because I had utilized my money on our mother's expenses. The conversation was comfortable and full of jokes.

Two colleagues talking

Colleague 1: hello, David, how was your day at work.

Colleague 2: My day was great, James; work was excellent as usual, you know.

Colleague 1: Yea, mine, too, was great as well. How are you fairing in this economy?

Colleague 2: ha-ha..! As usual, but we shall still make it no need to worry.

Colleague 1: okay, that's great; I don't know whether you can remember the issue I had shared    with you about my mother’s medication?

Colleague 2: yea, I can remember. How is she faring? 

Colleague 1: she is doing great now, I had rushed in the chemist in the morning to pick some       medications for her… and I almost used all money, even for house rent. If you don't      mind, you can assist me with $500.00 to add to what I have to pay house rent. I shall sort             you out on the             payday end month.

Colleague 2: I am sorry, and I wish your mother quick recovery and I shall assist you since I       know what you are passing through us are together.

How did the dialogue change?

            The dialogue was more different from borrowing money to a colleague, as I felt we are on the same level as I could to my boss. During this conversation, I would not point out all the useful facts about my performance as I did with the boss. I understand that if there would be anyone to have a clear understanding of issues concerning financial challenges would be my colleague. Even though most of the time, it feels hard to share one's economic problems, for a colleague, it was not hard as compared to the boss. In the same case, it was not again easier than one I had with my sibling.

Why did the dialogue change?

            The change of the dialogue occurred depending on the comfortability I had with my co-worker. There was much understanding as we are at the same level as the colleague; hence the conversation was less complicated. It felt more and equal that with my boss, even if not again identical with my sibling. I was at the same time had an understanding that my colleague had a clear track of my daily work and performance and some of the challenges I was going through at home since we share issues.