How to Spot a Liar

Pamela Meyer talk on lie spotting is an illuminating matter, as she clearly uses scientifically proven tells that most liars have. We are liars in one or any other way but more often than not we claim to detest deception. To be a lie spotter, the first thing you must note is that lying is a cooperative act, whether willingly or unwillingly, the key thing is to note what is the benefit of the lie. In our weakness or hunger for something more than who we really are that’s how a lie begins. The role we play or our character also play a key issue in our life when it comes to the number of times we lie, for instance if you are an introvert you tend to lie less, a man lies more in a relation as compared to women.

Liars always have a pattern when it comes to expressing themselves. They distance themselves from the subject and tend to be more formal. Using qualifying language or giving more than required details is also a tell when it comes to identifying a liar. When it comes to body language some body movement will also show a liar, this include, excessive blinking, finger chattering, fake smiles, contraction of the face muscles, legs facing an exit, different sound variation. Attitude is also an important tell. Liars are very uncooperative, withdrawn, be rough or over defensive. More often than not, liars have anger that latter grows to contempt.

The most surprising thing was that lying has been an evolutionary act. That even little children lie. One year children lie by concealment, two years’ bluff, five year olds flatter their way through anything while nine years lie by covering up their deeds. This helps us become better liars in our college and even later on in our careers. This is quite an astounding discovery. But noting a truthful person can also help in separating them from liars. A truthful person is often cooperative, and even more strict when it comes to suggesting punishment for liars, and tend to be more genuine with their feelings. But at the end of the day our character and integrity will help us be unequivocal when it comes to lying.

Reference

Pamela Talk on lie spotting, retried from:

https://www.ted.com/talks/pamela_meyer_how_to_spot_a_liar?language=en