Identifying your Social Style

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            Anyone’s social style relates to the depiction of the behavior pattern of people and their thoughts on others.  It roots on observable behavior that rapidly identifies a person’s prejudice and makes informed choices to make the person comfortable. It is important for a person to be aware of his personal social style and the way others observe the social style.  This perceptual difference affects the communication that happens between you and the other people that you lead.  For instance, if a person is the leader of some guards, and they perceive you as a failure, they consider you as easygoing. Rather than you controlling them, you may find them supervising you and this makes you irritated of your ability to control and lead them.  Having effective social style and leadership starts with a person acknowledging the importance of perceptual leadership (Levine, 2015). 

            For one to understand the reason as to why people perceive them in a certain way, it is vital to compare their own perceptions with your personal perceptions.  This will help one to become aware of why people communicate to them in a particular way.  The knowledge helps a person in changing their communication that increases a person’s ability.  Self-contract is an approach of adjusting your communication to how others communicate.  For instance if one is a critical leader who leads a group of drivers, you will improve your leadership skills if you communicate more of a driver. This includes having direct communication with the team and giving them liberty to propose their opinions.  This does not mean that it is the desired communication style but it is the best communication with the social group (Levine, 2015).   

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            Contrasting my results with the self-perception from the feedback from my relatives, I note that emotional aptitude forecasts people’s ability to control them, supervise other people and gain success. Review shows that there is a connection between emotional aptitude and success in profession.  Not every person is born with emotional intelligence but can gain and improve it through practice.  Regardless of the nature of people’s reactions, people with high emotional intelligence do not reject it and make excuses or get restlessness (Levine, 2015). 

            People may claim that they did not do the wrong thing and believe that their performance was better; they witness rejection by this.  This also causes excuses that are the responses common to people with less emotional intelligence. An excuse is an admission of fault that comprises mitigating factors that no human can easily overcome.  Anxiety causes emotional intelligence.  The subject lacks the readiness to move on to improve future performance and this causes failure in life (Levine, 2015). 

            People such as the driver with emotional intelligence as described in my results, he appear to hold conflict that shows a response based on stress. Just thinking about the failed issue sends the body into fight that is a survival method that forces a person to stand up and fight when faced with threats. When threat arises, the response is important for your survival but when the threat fails, holding the stress inflict the body and may cause health problems (Levine, 2015).  

            People feel misunderstood due to emotional intelligences.  This makes it difficult to understand how they came across others.  One feels misunderstood due to lack of proper message deliverance in a way that people can understand.  Even through practice, emotionally intelligent people acknowledge that they do not communicate every idea perfectly. They realize that people do not understand what they are saying and changes their approach and re-communicate their ideas in a way that people can understand (Levine, 2015). 

            A person’s emotional intelligence is highly flexible.  One has to train their brain and practice new emotionally intelligent behaviors and this creates ways that improves their habits. As the brain adapts to the use of the new behaviors, the relations supporting the destructive behaviors die off. As a result, you start responding to the environment with emotional intelligence even without thinking about it. There are reasons enough that prove my high insolence nature. Apart from the observed traits or manners, my cousin feels that I have a high emotional response especially to my elders.  He claims that I become conversant with people, sometimes revolting but responsive.  These evidences are clear enough to describe my personality that I am highly responsive (Levine, 2015). 

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            Talking about my personality, my social style is highly aggressive and highly receptive person. In connection to communication, an aggressive person is always friendly, receptive, has an open communication and is trusting. When communicating orally, people may mistake my high assertiveness and claim for rudeness or not being a good communicator.  Communicative people generally want sounding communicators and someone to talk with.  Research proofs that the emotional areas of the brain arise even as the cognitive areas arise.  This shows that the emotional aspects of the listener’s brain will correspond with the cognitive areas such as when the listener listens to the speaker who raises his voice (Lumsden & Wiethoff, 2010).

             Good people with high intelligence should not show emotions and must remain neutral.  However, it is clear that they are not robots but also humans who also feel emotions and who notice that the feelings entrench in non-verbal communication.   This shows that the process of understanding the verbal and non-verbal features describes the impartial ways of creating information into the brain through senses.  Thus, the interpreter faces an angry speaker with more or less violent emotions that are observable but through a successive understanding, the speaker analyzes the message less violently (Lumsden & Wiethoff, 2010).  

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            Being a good listener is a way that will improve my communication skills.  Many people do not understand that listening is important part of the communication process.  It does not only improve your communication with people, but it is a way of showing respect for others.  When people respect each other, it becomes an easier way to build long relationships.  The important thing here is paying attention to the speaker that will help one to understand the conversation by repeating the main points in your reaction (Barker, 2006).   

            Being aware of other people’s emotions improves the communication skills.  Being sympathetic with others shows your positive attitude towards their feelings.  Encouraging people make them feel wanted, valued, and appreciated in your communication.  Use of jokes in understanding other people’s feelings is important as it helps people relieve stress and anxiety.  Most people like laughing and fell better when somebody makes them laugh (Barker, 2006).   

            Treating people equally is a way of improving communication styles.  Always aim to communicate on an equal level and avoid condescending people. This will create trust and respect among people.  One has to ensure that people understands what you say to avoid confusion and negative feelings.  If confidentiality is a difficult matter, ensure discovering its limitations and ensure its maintenance (Barker, 2006).    

Reference

Barker, A. (2006). Improve your communication skills. London: Kogan Page.

Levine, B. N. (2015). Jock talk: 5 communication principles for leaders as exemplified by legends of the sports world.

Lumsden, G., Lumsden, D. L., & Wiethoff, C. (2010). Communicating in groups and teams: Sharing leadership. Australia: Wadsworth Cengage Learning.