Resiliency makes People Stronger
Introduction
The life that one leads while young tends to shape the way he or she might become in future. Most people tend to stick to the morals which they taught while young, thus shaping their future. In addition, the way a person behaves or relates with other people is also defined by the type of morals that one was taught. The environment, is a very significant aspect which consequently affects the behaviors of people, and this may also influence a person into behaving in a particular way. There are two categories of people in this world, the first category being of those who grew up without experiencing any forms of resilience, and the second category being of those who grew up experiencing different form of resilience. In a bid to understand how resilience makes people stronger, this paper is going to critically analyze the effects of resilience on one’s future.
Resilience acts as a means of foreshadowing a person’s future life, an act which humbles the person. In Pete’s case, he was separated from his mother at a very young age, and he was consequently taken to an orphanage (Brown, 75). Pete never received the motherly love which most children tend to receive while young, but this did not affect his future. Pete grew up as a very humbled and disciplined man, even though the type of care that he received while young, was not enough to make him act in the right way. Pete consequently grew up to be a man who respected his wife and family, and he never ever raised a hand before any woman. Pete knew how it felt to treat other people in the wrong way, a move which made him to realize that it was not good to treat other people in a bad way. Pete was consequently happily married, and after the death of his wife, he was able to raise his children in the best way possible, making them to become disciplined (Freado, 22). In most cases, people who pass through a lot of obstacles while young, tend to learn from such obstacles, hence changing their behavior when they grow up, in order to protect their families from experiencing such atrocities.
Hardships are meant to streamline a person, making him or her to be able to understand the obstacles to a better life. When a person passes through a lot of hardships while young, he or she is able to understand how painful it is to pass through such type of life (Freado, 23). This consequently enables one to be able to learn, and come up with proper ways of avoiding such a type of life. For instance, a child who has grown up in a family where both parents are drunkards, better understands the effects of alcoholism. When such a child grows up, he or she will avoid the abuse of alcohol and drugs, simply because he or she understands how hard it is to live with parents who are drunkards, and the problems that alcoholism comes with. The behavior of the person’s parents tends to mould the person, thus making the person to gain experience, hence keeping away from drugs, in order to lead a brighter life in future. The same applies in children who have grown up through a lot of hardships, due to poverty. Due to the pain that one goes through while being poor, the person becomes motivated to work hard, thus being able to move out of such a state (Brown, 77). Children raised from poor families tend to become hardworking and determined, due to what they have experienced. Moreover, poor children tend to work very hard in their lives, since they have nothing and no one to look up to, a thing which makes them to become their own role models. When a person becomes his or her own role model, then it means that the person will work very hard in order to change his or her previous life, or otherwise the opinion of other people concerning him or her. Hardships consequently seeks to mould a person for a brighter future.
Struggling disciplines the mind, making a person to look for alternative ways of shaping the future. Most children who have passed through a lot of hurdles, do not consequently end up passing through such hurdles when they grow up. This is basically because of the past experience that they have. Struggling consequently helps one to be able to reason, and to come up with proper ways of avoiding such obstacles (Brown, 79). A good example is a person who has grown up in a family where both parents are criminals. The person better understands how it feels in such a family, and the way one lives in fear, because at any moment he or she might be killed or arrested. A child from such a family consequently seeks to improve the type of life which he or she will lead, thus works very hard either in school or in any other field, hence improving the type of that he or she will lead in future. The mind of such a child becomes disciplined, making the child to understand the proper ways of living without fear.
Counterargument and Refutation
In as much as suffering and resilience makes one stronger, it is not guaranteed that those who have had a very tough life while young will lead a better life when they grow up. This is consequently because some people tend to follow whatever their parents used to do, thus becoming even worse parents (Freado, 25). There is no way that suffering can better the life of a person, since it makes the person to believe that he or she cannot be able to achieve more in life. The feeling consequently makes it hard for the person to be able to focus in bettering his life, hence leading a worse type of life than the previous on. For instance a person who has grown up in a family where both parents are drunkards, may end up becoming a drunkard, hence making his own family to pass through the trouble that he went through while young.
Conclusion
Suffering and resilience only makes one harden, thus coming up with ways of dealing with the problem. This results in success, since for one to be able to overcome suffering and resilience, he or she would need to work very hard, a move which results in success. In addition, hardships are responsible for streamlining a person, making the person to understand that even when passing through a lot of struggle, one can become successful. This consequently makes the person to focus on working hard, since his or mind becomes disciplined, hence achieving the best in life. Suffering and resilience do not last forever, and if one puts in the right effort, then he or she can change his life for the better, since a person’s life is not defined by what one has passed through.
Work Cited
Brown, Waln K. “Resiliency and the Mentoring Factor.” Reclaiming Children and Youth 12.2 (2004): 75-79. Web.
Freado, Megan. “Resilience: One Family’s Story.” Voices of Youth 20.3 (2011): 22-25. Web
